Life can take us down many paths, and we believe it is so important that our lives have brought us to this point together. The point in time when you are looking at our profile and trying to decide on a family that is going to love your baby and provide him/her the support they will need. We know this decision and pregnancy cannot be easy for you and we applaud your strength through this journey.
We would like to help you get to know us by giving you an honest representation of ourselves, our journey and our lives together. As discussed in our profile, Robbie and I first met in high school. We had a 9-month separation after Robbie graduated. During this time, I was involved in an unhealthy relationship, and had an unexpected pregnancy. I was not ready to lose my virginity, I said no. I was not ready for a child. At 4 weeks, I chose to have an abortion. Shortly after, I went off to college, and Robbie and I found our way back to each other. He was always the love of my life and he has loved me unconditionally through it all. We stayed together through college and got married in 2014. We gave birth to our son, Aron, in 2015. We never knew that we could fall in love with him like we did. In 2016, for many reasons, we decided that we wanted to help another family experience the joy we’ve had as parents and started a surrogacy journey. I gave birth to a non-biological child for another family in 2017. During the pregnancy, I was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor in my thigh. They removed the tumor while I was pregnant, and I have been cancer-free ever since. However, my doctor cautioned me about getting pregnant in the near future. He just wants to make sure I am able to prioritize my health, which is not easy to do when you are pregnant.
At 27 and 28 years old, my husband and I have been through a lot. We’ve always envisioned a life together with two children, but how we’ve envisioned this has changed. It was an amazing experience to have our own biological child, however, what we value is another opportunity to be parents. Parenting is not about raising a child that has your eyes or your nose, it’s about giving a child the tools to be their best selves and providing unconditional love in all stages of his/her life.
We will never promise to be perfect or know all of the answers, but we will promise unconditional love. We will accept our child exactly as they are and empower them to be who they want to be, and not who we want them to be. We are all different, everyone makes unique choices and those choices define who we are and what we become.
As our journey has suggested, we know there are many ways to create a family. What we want most for our children is for them to be loved. What this means for us is that the more people that love our child, the better. We know you love your baby already, which is why you are making this plan for him/her. We also know that this cannot be easy for you. However, our hearts will be open to both you and your baby. We’d rather a child grow up knowing they have two families that love him/her. I love taking photos and will be willing to write and share these photos with you, if it is what you desire. We are open to visits as well. Our journey has given us a unique perspective on openness. When we completed our surrogacy journey, we didn’t expect to hear from the birth family again, however, we get photos and messages from them that really have given us a sense of happiness for this family we helped to create.
We know we are not perfect, however, our 3-year-old says I am his ‘best mommy’, so that has to count for something, right?
We ask that you’ll at least consider our family when you are making your decision. We hope we get the chance to meet you.
-Robbie and Renee-