Dear Birth Parent,
We would like to begin by expressing our admiration for the strength it takes to consider adoption for your child. It is a courageous and selfless decision and we would be honored, to be considered as a family for your child. It is our hope with this letter, to provide you with a picture of what life with our family would be like for your child. We promise you that we will always love your child, give your child a loving and supportive home, and the joy of growing up in a devoted family.
We feel blessed to be part of an adoption story. For years, adoption has been on our hearts and we believe now is the right time to again add to our family through adoption. We have always dreamed of a big family and feel adoption is the best option for us.
We were both born and raised in Minnesota. We have now lived in Ohio for 10 years. Tony has a degree in business administration, although he has spent most of his working years in social work. He is currently a Dean of Community Life at a local Christian University. He enjoys working with college aged students through important life decisions. Tony is also currently working on a master’s degree in Counseling. Danielle has a master’s degree in curriculum and instruction and has been a middle school teacher for 13 years. She loves interacting with students on a daily basis, and building meaningful relationships with students and parents. The teachers schedule also allows Danielle to be home all weekends, holidays and enjoy summers with the kids.
We have been blessed with four children. Zoe is ten and a joy. She loves playing volleyball, creating art at her desk, learning piano and caring for all her younger cousins and friends. She is a fifth grader and loves school. Deacon is eight, in second grade and full of energy. He never stops moving while dreaming of being a professional athlete. In November of 2015, Trygve (Trig-vee) joined our family as a healthy baby boy. After ten weeks at home on maternity leave, Danielle returned to work. Tragedy struck in February 2016 when we lost Tryg to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome while he was napping at daycare. This was the saddest day of our lives and we continue to miss him.
In April of 2018 we adopted Carson Micah. He is now almost two and brings so much joy to our family. Zoe and Deacon are wonderful older siblings and do any amazing job teaching Carson all sorts of fun things while also helping care for him. We have an open relationship with Carson’s birth mother and communicate with her often. We share picture and videos with her at least monthly. Carson recognizes pictures of his birth mom and we talk fondly of her!
We enjoy a variety of activities. During a typical school week we have a pretty simple routine. Meals together, homework completion, chores and maybe a piano or sports lesson. On the weekends we enjoy running errands together as a family, hiking, biking, soccer league, doing puzzles and going to sporting events. When the weather is decent-we are outside. The kids love to play in our backyard and take walks around the neighborhood. We also have family just a few miles from us who have a pool, which is where we spend most of our summer days. Because a large portion of our family lives in Minnesota, we also make a couple trips a year there to visit family and friends. We also enjoy having grandparents and cousins visit us in Ohio a few times a year.
We are part of a strong faith community at our church where our children are celebrated as important members of the kingdom of God. We attend church most Sunday mornings and our kids love being with their friends for their church classes. Our church family has helped us through the most difficult time in our lives and they provide immeasurable support.
Our extended family is spread out across the United States from California, Minnesota, and Florida. Tony’s parents, and brother and sister-in-law live within a few miles of us. Grandpa and Grandma help with childcare often and attend all the kid’s events. Our brother and sister-in-law have two adopted children of their own. We spend a lot of time with their family and our kids love their cousins dearly. We also have a group of friends and co-workers who we spend time with either sharing meals, bon fires in the back yard, and a variety of other activities. Although our other siblings do not live near, we facetime with them often and keep meaningful relationships with our siblings and parents.
We love being parents and our kids have brought so much joy to our lives. We try to demonstrate what it means to show unconditional love while also teaching them about boundaries and responsibilities. We love and raise Carson just as we have our biological children. Danielle plans to take a couple months of maternity leave upon an adoption in order to foster a healthy attachment and bond with the baby. Carson currently attends a church day care three days a week and has a wonderful woman come to our house to care for him the other two days a week. We plan to keep the same schedule for the baby. Our goal for raising our kids is for them to know that they are loved deeply and to show that same kind of love to their neighbors.
We hope this gives you a sense of who we are as a family. We believe you will always be an important part of your child’s life and therefore desire an open adoption, but are willing to explore your level of comfort and your desires for this relationship. We cannot thank you enough for taking the time to read this. We are praying you feel peace throughout this process and confident in your decision.
Tony & Danielle